Recommendations for delaying a child’s access to a smartphone
until age 14 and social media until age 16 is based on several
developmental, psychological, and safety considerations. In the
meantime, consider getting your child an old phone just for calling
and texting, not a ‘smart phone’ if they need to stay connected
with you. This allows them to text and call but provides no app or
internet access.
Brain Development & Self-Regulation
The prefrontal cortex, which governs impulse control, critical
thinking, and emotional regulation, is still developing in children
and teens. Delaying phone and social media access gives them
more time to build these skills without distractions and potential
harm from online interactions.
Mental Health & Well-Being
Studies link early social media use to increased anxiety,
depression, and low self-esteem due to comparison culture,
cyberbullying, and excessive screen time.
Social & Emotional Skills
Younger kids benefit from face-to-face interactions for social
development. Too much screen time can stunt communication
skills, empathy, and deep friendships.
Sleep & Focus on School
Phones and social media are major sleep disruptors. Poor sleep
affects mood, academic performance, and overall well-being.
Cyber Safety & Digital Literacy
Younger kids are more vulnerable to online predators, scams, and
cyberbullying. They may lack the maturity to navigate online risks
safely.
Encouraging Real-World Activities
Delaying smartphones and social media reduces screen addiction
and encourages physical play, hobbies, and real-world
exploration.
Avoiding Tech Overload & Dopamine Dependence
Social media and constant notifications can overstimulate the
brain, leading to dopamine addiction (similar to what happens with
gambling). Delaying exposure reduces the risk of dependency
and helps kids learn self-control before they enter the digital world
‘Super Powers’
Parents can explain to their young child that by delaying
smartphone use, they’re gaining a “superpower” that helps them
focus better and engage more deeply with friends. This extra time
allows them to develop strong social skills, make meaningful
connections, and enjoy activities that spark their creativity.
Additionally, they can highlight that this approach promotes better
sleep, enhances emotional regulation, and fosters a love for exploration in the real world.
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